Scared is a feeling, not a mandate

Here's a most excellent quote to ponder while I finish off the next entry and paddle in this bottomless pit of corporate ToDo and overwhelmedness while trying to remember that panicking gets you nowhere, tra la la la!

"Everyone gets scared before they try something new. By everyone I mean me, and I’m certain you are all exactly like me. But I do hear this from other people: They are scared to come to a class, scared to try a new activity, scared of me and my crazy talk, but odds are only one of those is really going to do lasting damage. Scared is a feeling, not a mandate. Be scared, try it anyway, yeah yeah. No one wants to look like a fool or take a risk, but odds are, most people are so absorbed in what they are doing, they won’t even see you, and besides, they probably feel the same way, so let’s all get huggy and be done with it."

Five things I learned as a trainer – the always brilliant Kelly, [via Marla]

10 thoughts on “Scared is a feeling, not a mandate

  1. Wow, this is something I have been thinking about lately. I too have come to realize that if I was shaking crazily at the thought of challenges (especially professional for me), I certainly wasn’t the only one. Only people tend to hide it from others, and that’s precisely why we feel we are the only ones like that. But hey, that quote put it way better. Thanks for that inspiration!

  2. I love this! The times I’m happiest seem to be the times I’m facing my fears most often. Thanks for passing this along and good luck with that to-do list.

  3. I agree 100% (and I love Kelly and FitnessFixation – yay!)

    I think when something scares you or just makes you feel uncomfortable that is what you should do. That is what you need to do to grow as a person. Find out where the walls are that are blocking your path through life and tear them down or jump over them or chip away bit by bit over years. But face the fears, take the challenges. Sounds cheesy but – Live!

  4. Well this really couldn’t have come at a better time! I’m dealing with fears of my own…not exercise related, but trying to move forward in other parts of my life is really frightening. Thanks for getting my eyes off the floor. 🙂

  5. I talk to coworkers all the time that say they don’t want to try one of the aerobic classes at our gym because they’re afraid of sticking out in the crowd. As for me, I know I look absolutely ridiculous in some of those classes but I never look at anyone else – usually my eyes are planted on the trainer. I don’t even look at myself. 🙂 I’ve come to a nice place where I realize we all look ridiculous and that’s the beauty of group exercise.

  6. Wow, I needed that. My job is currently at risk of redundancy and I have an interview on Monday. It is with the same company but in another country and YES I am scared. Excited. Scared. Mixed up….its new, its a different language, but I can do it; a lot of people wouldn’t even try.

    If I don’t try, I’ll never know.

    Thanks Dietgirl – you save me every time.

  7. Amen to that!

    Must print that out and stick it on my wall so the next time I get all stupid about doing something new, I’ll see it and come to my senses.


  8. Well THANKS now I have a new hilarious informative motivating blog to be addicted to. Just what I needed. Actually it is – I have to write an essay for uni and I’m scared s#$%less, and now I’m going to do it! Thanks!

  9. I must start saying “let’s all get huggy and be done with it” more often!

    This really is a very useful thought. I need to apply this to my hang-up about sparring, for sure, but to some other things as well. I’m starting to really think my job is the wrong one for me. I need to be brave, make a plan and take action!


  10. I’m a 40-something mom who does karate with teens-to-20-somethings, and let me tell you – even though I might look, ahem, out of place, I learned that I was accepted because of my attitude.

    Getting healthy is something we all deserve…so I say, shun the insidious little voice in your head and go for it.

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